By now, after working with your Core Numbers and reading part 1 & part 2, you know that your personal numbers can always help to illustrate where you shine. But they can also help to indicate where you may need to develop boundaries, and ask for assistance in your life. When it comes time to discuss our inner needs, boundaries or our sexuality, this is when many of us get tripped up. Yet, using your personal numbers in an open and honest dialogue with your partner can not only deepen the relationship, but the talks can also highlight your strengths, challenges and weaknesses. However, any truly honest talk can help you to see that as partners you may share limits, needs and interests. Your discussions can allow each of you to know more about one another that might not otherwise be shared, and this may help your intimacy to unfold in new ways.
Self-Acceptance is critical in developing truly intimate relationships. The more accepting you are of yourself the less dependent on others you will be. Having acceptance also helps us to be more aware of our limits and boundaries. Also, the more you accept yourself, the less you will need to seek out others for acceptance. You're relationships can then be based on respect and mutual needs. Over dependence on others can be detrimental to your sexual, mental and emotional health. It can be important, especially in the beginning of a relationship to set real and honest limits and boundaries with your partner. Setting boundaries means that you are willing to take responsibility, and that you demand equality and respect in a relationship. Boundaries can help the relationship to develop as we learn to respect, honor, value, trust and listen to ourselves and others.
When you feel threatened, angry, or victimized within a relationship you may need to discuss how you feel and perhaps back away. Having an understanding of the critical boundaries that need to be set in your life will help you to cope and to have compassion for yourself and the relationship.
One big issue that might not be immediately apparent to many couples is expansion of their relationship to the outside world. Couples, if they are not aware, can become closed off from their families and friends. This doesn't mean that they don't communicate with others, but they may develop an over reliance on the relationship itself. They could be gaining strength from, and helping to grow, other relationships. Reaching out and helping other relationships may help to strengthen the bonds of your own relationship. Caring for others can help you to have faith in one another.
As you look at what is/isn't working in your relationship, you should know that individuals with introverted personalities and Soul Numbers may need help setting boundaries. Your Soul Number represents qualities which are more internalized, and thus not easily or immediately recognized by others. If you don't ask for assistance, then nobody may recognize that you need it. For those individuals who feel more introverted, bookish, or aloof (such a 4, 5, 7) they may have a tougher time dealing with talking about intimacy, or intimate feelings. They may need some type of outside assistance. Your other numbers will help to paint your personality, but only you know how emotionally active and mature you are.
Ultimately, only you can know if you are mature enough for this relationship, or if now is the right time for a relationship and whether you are indeed in a relationship with the right "compatible" person. Hopefully, you will both be willing to work out your differences and make the necessary changes so that you can be fully intimate with one another. Also, a healthy relationship will have connections to other couples and family social circles.
Ideally, the relationships, especially those involving your sexuality, in your life should be healthy, open and mutually supportive. Real and supportive connections are important, regardless of whether you are connecting with a business partner or significant other.
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