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Numerology and Inner Healing (2)

Numerologically, your inner desire (represented by your Soul Number) may be unfulfilled. In any pursuit of greater health, it is important to find ways to nurture and listen to your true needs. Pushing aside your inner wishes, hopes and dreams can be a source of conflict, stress, and tension.

When we believe in ourselves, we are better able to deal with stressful situations. When stress slowly drags us down, we tend to not take time out to relax and recover. We then slowly lose confidence in our abilities and let things slide. In attempts to lessen stress, we may ignore important aspects of our lives, because we don’t have enough time or space. As an example, we may not take as good care of ourselves as we should.

The Soul Number can be a great place to start as it indicates the views you tend to have of yourself. You may then want to look into the following questions:

• Are you neglecting who you really are?
• Do you share your interests and talents?
• Do you make time for your interests?
• Do you have a support system?
• Does who you are get in the way of solving or coping with personal issues?

Stress can come from many sources, but one of the biggest probably stems from trying to do, or take on, too much. How much is too much? It depends on where you are in your life, your skills, and your resources. Are there times in your life that you took on more than you could handle and then simply collapsed or let things slide, due to the stress? I believe your ability to stay balanced in your life is extremely important. This is another place where Numerology can fit into this complex puzzle. It can help to illustrate how you can best remain balanced during challenging or stressful situations.

Numerology and Inner Healing

The quest for healing can be about seeking out ways to bring about ways to live a simple, healthy, uncomplicated, and comfortable life. However, to truly heal we often must become more aware of ourselves, our actions, and the way in which we lead our lives. Utilizing spiritual tools, like Numerology, we can become more self-aware and begin our own personal healing.

However, there may be roadblocks in your path. You may have to do a lot of examining of your thoughts and your life. How often do we hear negative phrases, or stories, about how bad life is? After a while this information takes on more and more power in your life. Many of us have living and healing that we want to accomplish. If you want to heal, then it’s time take action. Roll up your sleeves and begin the work that you know you want to do, rather than giving a greater percentage of your power to the negativity in life.

True healing can only come from within you. Of course, we need to recognize that important health information can come from our inner voice, yet it can also come from the world around us, or it may come from the loving advice of friends and family. When you come to understand that changes need to take place, you will realize that healing involves doing. Our healing is about attending to our selves and our inner needs. But again, it's not about ignoring the world, it's recognizing that we need to address our own issues if we truly want to effectively be able to be of service to others or the world at large.

Numerology can help you to recognize your strengths and your weaknesses. Unless we embrace ourselves in total, we won't be able to claim our full power and step up to our true potential. Indeed, working with our own Shadow can be one of the most healing things that we'll ever do.

Next, we'll discuss how to work with your Soul Number to find ways to nurture and listen to your inner voice. After all, pushing aside your inner wishes, hopes and dreams can be a source of conflict, stress, and tension, which can prevent you reaching your goals and accomplishing the healing you deserve in your life.

Inspirational People ~ Dr. Dorothea Hover-Kramer

Dr. Dorothea is the author of several books about energy therapies including Healing Touch: a guidebook for practitioners. See her excelent article about staying positive and motivated when the seasonal changes get you down. 

In her article, she mentions some great ideas:

• Track every negative thought and replace it immediately with a positive opposite.
• Treat any negative thought as quickly as possible with a gentle rub to the heart center (or any other place on the body that needs a caring touch) and the reminder phrase, “Even though I get discouraged with …cold wind…rain…a gray day, I deeply and completely love and accept myself and choose to kindle my inner lights and energies.”
• Surround yourself with reminders of your intention to live fully in the season, to enjoy the most out of what is given in the way of external weather.

YogaJournal: Happy Side Effects

From the article on why we meditate, by Kristin Shepherd

For me, there's no question. It's a lifelong discovery process of looking more and more deeply into who I am, what is truth, and what remains when I let go of everything.

Healing Family Issues With Ancestral Healing

Within our bodies, hearts and souls we may carry some of the unfinished issues from our ancestors. Your ancestors can be anyone in your family tree. You may be struggling unconsciously with unresolved issues from your parents lives, their parents, or others who came before them. You may also be struggling with larger issues related to the entire family. The regrets, tragedies, pain, and grief that they were unable to deal with may have been unintentionally passed down to you. Ancestral healing work involves finding ways to let go, and look for ways to heal, from these issues.

Psychologically speaking, you may be dealing with issues related to the Shadow, which can relate to familial issues that are forgotten, never addressed or kept hidden. Unfortunately, within many families particular patterns of abuse, such as anger, alcoholism, or deceit, may be passed down from generation to generation. However, the damage that these patterns create can be healed.

Of course, much of what has passed down to you can be valuable and desirable. Your parents, and other elders, may have instilled great qualities within you. It’s important to recognize this, and to have compassion for yourself and your family. Ancestral healing work is not about blaming, pointing fingers or stepping away from responsibility. It is about finding ways to release the hold limiting life patterns, passed down to you, may have on your life.

Simply consider some of the phrases that may have been repeated in your childhood, such as “Money doesn’t grow on trees”, “It’s dangerous out there”, “You’re eating us out of house and home”, “You’ve got to face reality” or “You’re not good enough.” You also may have your own particular phrases that left a sting, and that you still remember.

Numerologically, you can begin to address your familial issues by looking at your Core Numbers, but also the Family Name number. Your Family Name number can help to illustrate the personal patterns, general emotions, attitudes, moods, and personal characteristics that you share with your family. Being aware and conscious of your emotions and how you connect with and relate to your family can help you to mature and grow as an individual. Knowing how you act and feel is important, as is finding a way to develop compassion, acceptance, and tolerance for your parents, yourself and other members of your family.

In general, your Family Name number can be used to show how you deal with and relate to challenging situations around money, work and relationships. It also describes the drives and tasks that you, as a member of a particular family, will feel compelled to achieve in this lifetime. This is especially true if you have been given the first name of a parent or grandparent. It often falls to children to accomplish those dreams that a parent didn't or couldn't resolve. This number can help you to be more aware of the ways in which external family influences can shape our lives and drive us to succeed in our life challenges.

You may need to seek out a skilled therapist, and/or support group, to begin to address these issues within your life. They can give you the necessary support and guidance to believe in yourself, and the recognition that you can indeed heal and make new choices within your life. They will help you to build a support network for yourself, and you can then look to other tools, therapies and techniques, such as those mentioned here, to help you along your path.

You might also look to other modalities, such as Shamanism, to help process and release your unfinished familiar issues. From a shamanic perspective, the patterns, behaviors and traits that are common within the family can be seen as imprints. A shamanic practitioner could work with you to release these imprints and help you reconnect with parts of yourself that seem missing or lost.

To catch a better glimpse of your particular family patterns, you might look to see:

• Health issues occurring at a certain age in members of your family.
• Patterns of drug abuse, alcoholism or addiction within the family.
• Emotional patterns, such as codependency, within the family.
• Limiting beliefs within the family.
• Patterns of enablement within the family.
• Destructive issues that are never addressed or talked about within the family.

Those of us with these, or other debilitating patterns, may need to find a way to address healing them in order to more deeply enable personal healing. Our families help to shape us, and unless you are willing to challenge those patterns and beliefs that are self limiting, you'll hold them inside. It's up to you and me, to discover a way to release them, heal and begin to more deeply believe in ourselves.

In order to begin now to address your ancestral healing needs you might be to begin to look at whatever feels out of balance in your life. You can then bring the material that arises to your therapist, doctor or support group.

I can work with you by discussing other tools and techniques which may help you in your journey. Together, we can discuss your Family Name number and address how it might impact your life. We can also work with your Numerology chart to take better advantage of the challenges and opportunities that you desire to pursue, but perhaps felt unable to, until now.

Finding Inner Healing with Numerology

The quest for healing can be about seeking out ways to bring about ways to live a simple, healthy, uncomplicated, and comfortable life. However, to truly heal we often must become more aware of ourselves, our actions, and the way in which we lead our lives. Utilizing spiritual tools, such as Numerology, we can become more self-aware and begin our own personal healing.

However, there may be roadblocks in your path. You may have to do a lot of examining of your thoughts, feelings and the way in which you live your life. How often do we hear negative phrases, or stories, about how bad life is? After a while this information takes on more and more power in your life. Many of us have living and healing that we want to accomplish. If you want to heal, then it’s time take action. It's time to roll up your sleeves and begin the work that you know you want to do, rather than giving a greater percentage of your power to the negativity in life.

Deep and lasting healing comes from leading a life that matters, and listening to the voice within. Important health information can come from our inner voice, the world around us, or it may come from the loving advice of friends and family. When you come to understand that changes need to take place, you will realize that healing involves doing. Our healing is about attending to our selves, and our "needs."

You may have been denying your needs for some time. Numerologically, your inner desire (represented by your Soul Number) may be unfulfilled. In any pursuit of greater health, it is important to find ways to nurture and listen to your inner voice. Pushing aside your inner wishes, hopes and dreams can be a source of conflict, stress, and tension.

Also, keeping track of your important Numerological rhythms can be very important. Your rhythms can help you to be aware of the energies that are available to you as you move through your life (Personal Year). They can give you an overall perspective of your life, and your role in it. Being aware can help you to more readily accept change, and avoid or better handle tension/stress causing events.

Today many well-respected medical professionals feel that stress is a major cause of illness. Author and physician, Dr. Andrew Weil, says, "I am convinced that stress is the primary cause or aggravating cause of the majority of illness."

Would it not be prudent to find ways to alleviate stress in our lives? What works for you? For many people, music can offer great healing benefits. Music can be one part of the puzzle in your journey toward leading a healthier life.

Author, Don Campbell (Mozart Effect) states that "by listening to music with longer, slower sounds, one can usually deepen and slow the breath, allowing the mind to calm down...As with breathing rates, a lower heartbeat creates less physical tension and stress, calms the mind, and helps the body heal itself. Music is a natural peacemaker."

According to proponents of Vibrational healing, pollutants, toxins or allergens that enter our body, can alter the normal vibrational patterns of the body. When we have an unbalanced emotional or mental attitude, our normal vibrational patterns are altered as well. When we are unbalanced, sickness or pain can result. When this happens, the body needs help restore itself to its original vibration. This is where the use of vibrational/sound therapy comes in.

According to Vibrational therapy, when you focus sound vibrations to a problem area, balance to that area can be temporarily restored. When there is balance, the body is more effective in eliminating toxins.

Pythagoras, founder of the study of Numerology, is said to have revealed the musical and numerical nature of our universe. The Pythagoreans even went so far as to develop something called "musical medicine," which were songs accompanied by an ancient Grecian instrument known as the lyre.

The lyre was considered to be the mystical symbol representing the human constitution. The body of the lyre represented our physical form. The strings represented our nerves or nervous system. The musician himself represented the spirit. The Pythagoreans were known for their aptitude to cure many physical and spiritual afflictions through the use of this music.

Music has been used for healing for thousands of years in many cultures, including the early teachings of the Greeks, Chinese, East Indians, Tibetans, Egyptians, American Indians, Mayas, and the Aztecs. Music seems so incorporated in Chinese medicine that in their writing, Music and Happiness share the same character. Also, part of the Chinese character for Medicine is the same as the character for Music.

Continuing research on incorporating music into our lives is being done today. There are many avenues that are available for learning about healing through sound. Tuning forks and Vibrational Healing are two of the most popular. However, Finding a quiet place, and just listening to music that you enjoy can help you to learn about yourself, and alleviate overall stress and begin the job of addressing certain issues that you may have.

As you listen to your music, you may wish to close your eyes and imagine a particular color swirling around your body. There are many authors who can expound on the subject of color healing. The basic application of color and music in your life can be to develop desired personal traits/qualities in yourself. By understanding the meaning of the numbers in your personality you can begin to apply sound, color, and music as a personal growth tool in your life.

I think that finding yourself a good set of tuning forks, or music bowl can help you to learn more about attuning to the particular music notes. The chart below provides a basic correlation of colors and notes to numbers. Many different systems of healing relate these same colors and notes to the Chakras.

#	Note/Chord	Color	Helps with:
1	C	Red	Physical strength, Emotions, Energy
2	D	Orange	Rigidity, Stress, Self Confidence, Fear
3	E	Yellow	Nervous System, Emotions, Digestion
4	F	Green	General Healing, Heart
5	G	Blue	Cleansing (for the skin), Calming
6	A	Indigo	Clearing (for ears, eyes, nasal passages), Motivation
7	B	Violet	Cramps, Kidney problems, Spiritual growth, Dedication
8	High C	Rose	Opening up, Sharing
9	Middle C/D	Gold	Understanding, Movement, Acceptance

An interesting side note is the prominence of 7 and 12 in music and time. There are seven whole notes in the octave and 12 half steps in the octave. We also see the prominence of these same numbers in our time divisions - 12 hours each of day and night, 7 days in a week, 12 months in the year.

Another tool that you can use in your quest for better health is breathwork. Many disciplines can work well when you begin to understand the power of your mind. Breathwork is one of these disciplines. It is about reconnecting and integrating all aspects of ourselves. This process, while difficult at times, can be tremendously healing. This involves dealing with unresolved feelings, issues and events (recent, younger/childhood events, etc.) which we have kept buried and which can have significant impact on our overall health. If you wish to heal, or develop certain qualities, then perhaps breathwork can be your bridge to get there.

Element	Numbers involved	Helps with:
Earth	4	Groundedness, Stability, Strong Foundations
Air	7,9	Intellect, Judgement, Thought, Decision
Fire	1,3,8	Creative abilities, Potential, Power
Water	2,5,6	Intuition, Emotion, Inner Wisdom, Understanding
Ether	1,5	Insight, Understanding, Expansion

Pursuing the process of healing and transformation using these techniques can be an enormously rewarding process. However, it must be said that it can be difficult, rewarding, frustrating, and invigorating at different times in your search.

Also, know that your mind's ability to trigger the body's ability to heal is so common that doctors factor it (placebo effect) into every medical experiment. Healing then must be a matter of stimulating whatever natural processes that reside within yourself.

There are many ways to tap into healing in your life. Find out what 'works' for you. Any system that works for me, may not work for you, or work for you in the way that it does for me. Spirit is important in any kind of healing. Determination, grit, persistence, willpower, stamina, inspiration and drive all play a vital role.

This ability to heal ourselves lies within each of us. It is just a matter of learning to tap into this incredible resource, to make the Mind/Body connection, to reach within ourselves and discover how much power we have over our bodies and ourselves. This is what will ultimately lead us all to a higher quality of life, true health, and wellness.

Discovering A Life That Matters

Your Destiny Number can guide you toward living a life that really matters to you. As a tool to understand your life experiences, your Destiny Number describes ways in which you can best live in order to live up to your fullest potential. We all have life changing experiences we will pass through. Your own experiences will help to shape the person you will become.

The Destiny number describes those situations, actions and decisions you really are compelled to choose for growth in your life. It's about following your heart and believing in your inner dreams.

At first, others may more clearly see which decisions are best for you. Consider their wisdom carefully. However, the decision on how you want live your life is always up to you. But, sometimes those close to us can easily identify strengths within us, which we cannot yet see. Your choices and possibilities are limitless. Know that the knowledge that comes from living up to your Destiny Number can be vital toward pursuing your personal growth.

In Numerology, we use a letter chart to convert our names to a corresponding number. To Calculate your Destiny Number you will simply add up all of the letters in your birth name (or a nickname if you choose). The resulting number is then reduced to a single digit, by adding together its own numbers:

A, J, S = 1
B, K, T = 2
C, L, U = 3
D, M, V = 4
E, N, W = 5
F, O, X = 6
G, P, Y = 7
H, Q, Z = 8
I, R = 9

Example:
Paris Hilton : 7 + 1 + 9 + 9 + 1 + 8 + 9 + 3 + 2 + 6 + 5 = 60
(6 + 0) = 6

Now, if you also had a Destiny Number 6 like Paris, you would try to keep in mind how your time spent working or just having fun helps to make you feel more confident. For someone with a Destiny Number 6 this might be finding ways to help others connect and find joy in their own lives. When you are younger this might be through volunteer work with a group of close friends. Later in life you may feel compelled to be part a strong part of your community by contributing your time to local schools, hospitals or other community organizations.

Destiny Numbers - Brief Descriptions
Destiny 1:
You'll feel confident when you are: Being inventive or creative, Guiding, Leading, Challenging others
You'll feel challenged when you are: Giving up, Over confident, Domineering, Controlling, Hiding

Destiny 2:
You'll feel confident when you are: Compassionate, Caring, Honest, Receptive, Social, Giving
You'll feel challenged when you are: Feeling isolated, Cut off, Being manipulative, Wavering, Depressed, Chaotic

Destiny 3:
You'll feel confident when you are: Social, Optimistic, Creative, Gregarious, Fun, Caring, Worldly
You'll feel challenged when you are: Domineering, Gossipy, Bragging, Controlling, Manipulative

Destiny 4:
You'll feel confident when you are: Persistent, Loyal, Dependable, Controlled, Determined, Practical
You'll feel challenged when you are: Angry, Heated, Domineering, Fear based, Resistant, Moody, Closed

Destiny 5:
You'll feel confident when you are: Exploring, Curious, Inventive, Discovering, Traveling, Finding your voice
You'll feel challenged when you are: Greedy, Frugal, Coveting, Feeling Stressed, Temperamental, Bored, Uncaring

Destiny 6:
You'll feel confident when you are: Warm, Hospitable, Caring, Parenting, Helping, Concerned
You'll feel challenged when you are: Selfish, Uncaring, Pessimistic, Closed, Mean, Angry, Cold

Destiny 7:
You'll feel confident when you are: Utilizing your intuition, Living Spiritually, Honest, Caring, Having faith
You'll feel challenged when you are: Isolated, Dogmatic, Isolated, Apathetic, Closed, Lost, Angry

Destiny 8:
You'll feel confident when you are: Expressing your authority, persistent, courageous, honest, dedicated
You'll feel challenged when you are: Domineering, Greedy, Manipulative, Dishonest, Disloyal

Destiny 9:
You'll feel confident when you are: Sympathetic, Compassionate, Inspiring, Caring, Determined
You'll feel challenged when you are: Critical, Angry, Manipulative, Bitter, Compulsive

Numerology and Midlife Transitions

Numerology can be used to support midlife transitions. We’ll discuss how Numerology can help by allowing you to make healthier choices about your life. Men would also benefit from studying the works of Stephen Arterburn, William Blake, Robert Bly, John Eldredge, and Barry Lopez. However, let’s first discuss what exactly “midlife” is. Webster's Dictionary defines middle age or midlife as:

“The time of human life between youth and old age, usually reckoned as the years between 40 and 60.”

Therefore midlife is a period of time in which you are no longer young, but not necessarily old. It is a midpoint. But, what are you in the middle of? Are you in the middle of a life that you enjoy? Most of us want to live long, meaningful, and worthwhile lives. Do you yearn for something extra in your life? Are you now more focused on times past, or the present? You may have many questions about life, and what it should or could be. Is your life significant? Somehow you must find the answer these questions. As you age the answers become more important. Men and women today may have a stressful and more difficult time transitioning in midlife, especially when they avoid answering these and other important questions. Of course since recent studies, like those from the National Institutes of Health, show that men and women handle stress differently, we all will have unique and personal answers.

By midlife, hopefully you have been responsible for your own personal growth, which can be part of a life long evolutionary process. In other words, you are a mature and responsible adult. You can be optimistic, yet have contingencies for possible obstacles. You know that outside guidance can be beneficial. Guidance can come from hearing the stories of others and by actually listening to your own inner voice (as represented by your Soul Number). As you approach middle age, you may want to devote special time for personal reflection and evaluation. Numerology can help with this through the your Maturity number.

Those of us with father, or abandonment, issues may need to find ways to emotionally support ourselves before we can effectively self-reflect. Counseling may be needed. Those of us willing to do deeper work may wish to study breath work, the enneagram, voice dialogue, mythology and archetypes. Men, especially at midlife, would do well to study the warrior archetype. German anthropologist Adolph Bastian, first proposed the idea that world myths seem to be built from the same "elementary ideas.". These ideas eventually became known in psychology as archetypes.

By midlife, it’s important to have a developed sense of your true self, and a strong level of maturity. Where does your sense of self come from? Becoming mature is a process of learning, growth and evolving. You learn, make mistakes, and develop. Numerological insight into your maturity and aging can be had from your Maturity number. Its influence begins to have a deep and profound impact on your life after the age of 35. It indicates particular abilities, yearnings or dreams that gradually surface between 30 and 40, with its full force becoming stronger throughout your 40’s. It definitely has an inner, mysterious and spiritual pull. Personal crisis may emerge when we avoid the pull of our inner growth and instead overly devote our lives to business, sports or the material.

In many ways, the Maturity Number illustrates rewarding life paths and the possible ways that you may develop your true potential. However, the paths that it shows may not be direct routes to your ultimate goals. Following it is about following your heart. Following it is not about doing what pleases others. Understanding the nuances of this number may take time. In the long run, you may learn more about yourself and your Maturity number by sharing your time, energy, and wisdom through honest work and community involvement. It may involve becoming humble. For career minded individuals this process can mean that you find more time for spiritual and social development.

The characteristics of your Maturity number can usually be seen when you are young, but we all tend to lose sight of these traits, as we get older. In young children, the Maturity number can be seen by simply noticing the way they behave and by observing their personal interests. However, its influences usually disappear gradually because their personality is forming (see Soul Number & Outer Number) and the influence of the Core Numbers (Life Path, Soul Number, Outer Number, Destiny Number) grows. Remember the words of Pablo Picasso: “All children are artists. The problem is how to remain an artist once he grows up.” I remember drawing and working with clay as a child. I am sure many of you remember doing this, or similar things, as well. I still enjoy drawing today. Being creative and artistic simply makes me happy and has always helped me to relieve stress and tension. What makes you happy?

Now, another tool that can help shed light on this period of your life is Astrology. Within Astrology you can look to your "Saturn Return" to find more information about key transformational points in your life (29-30 and 59-60). Since Saturn's period is roughly about 29-1/2 years, it generally refers to a period of time between ages 29- 30. Each time Saturn returns to its birth location (natal position) in your chart, you are supposedly “reborn”. At the Saturn return, you are challenged to listen to your soul, express your unique individuality and to be responsible for needed personal growth.

You may also look to others who seem to have had periods of life altering transformation, especially around ages 30 or 40, as the Saturn Return does appear to have profound and long lasting influence. These can be important time periods in anyone’s life, and you may also want to re-evaluate your 30th (or 60th) year. One person that I’d like to talk about is Gwenyth Paltrow. At 30, she says that her life changed forever. After celebrating her 30th birthday with her dad, he died a few days later. She says “...It's not as if you can shut off the pain of life and what it brings you. But I think if you face it head-on, with an open heart and open mind, you can surmount anything. I really believe that."

I am sure you have and can find people with transformation stories. The stamina and the power that renewal brings can help you to face your fears and obstacles later in life. It is about recognizing your strengths and abilities. The people mentioned above, are definitely examples of people willing to give it their all to work toward their dreams. These are people who do not give up. Now consider, Carl Jung who dedicated much of his life to therapy for people who given up on their inner desires. They may have done this to please someone else. For people like this, midlife transition can be a difficult process.

Now, as you progress into midlife, you should gradually be better able to fully express and live through the power of your Maturity Number. Learning to pace yourself and balance your needs is also important. Some Maturity numbers require that you learn about self-discipline while others will require that you learn about fun, pleasure, happiness, and creativity.

Maturity Number 3 is just such a number. People with a Maturity Number 3, will need to learn about simple living and find ways to unburden themselves from overly complex situations. It may mean that you no longer chase after the latest gadgets or have the best home or car. It may mean looking for work that is less demanding. Of course, these people will have to learn when to stand up for something that matters and when to walk away. It will be important for them to leave control of some of the bigger, or thornier, issues in life to others. At a basic level, those people with a 3 for a Maturity number will need to find balance between work and play. Creative outlets are what really matter for these people.

Of course, people with different Maturity numbers will have other issues to resolve. Consider someone who has a Maturity Number 7. These people generally appear deep and contemplating. As they age, they will become increasingly concerned with the larger questions in life. Generally, these people are looking for answers from within themselves. They want to be part of the “solution”. At midlife they may be drawn to religious studies. It will be important for them, especially those with families, to make room for their loved ones, even if they have a thirst to seek for deeper understanding of what life is all about.

For these people, it may be important to remember the words of Barry Lopez: “There are simply no answers to some of the great pressing questions. You continue to live them out, making your life a worthy expression of leaning into the light.” As they mature, it will therefore be important for those with a Maturity Number 7 to simply do what they believe is right. They will also need to balance time alone with family and social life. Others may at times, feel pushed aside by people with this number. Balance in their lives will help them to transition into adulthood and beyond. For men especially, this may mean that you develop ways to be more relaxed, giving and accepting.

With dedication and maturity, we all have the ability to listen to our inner needs and work toward achieving them. Think of your inner needs as the music of your soul. Don’t you want to hear it? It may take time, hard work, and dedication to arrive at your desired destination. Preparing yourself for possible obstacles, and working with spiritual tools can help you to make a more healthful midlife transition. Putting life on hold, pleasing others, or living through your children will only provide fuel for a crisis. You have to live your own life. Listening to your inner voice can be fulfilling and rewarding. You may want to look for people who have lives that seem to include the qualities of the Maturity number, as they may be able to help you learn more about your own life and transitional needs. Above all, enjoy life and remember this Yogi Bera-ism: “When you come to the fork in the road, take it.”

Who Are You?

Occasionally, I will hear from someone with an interest in Numerology, but thinks that an intuitive reading they received doesn't fully represent them. This may be for a variety of reasons. Some of your reasons may seem valid, but whether you’re reading for yourself or having someone else read for you, you first have to be willing to be vulnerable. Readings may bring insights that are not ego enhancing.

Some of the information that a reading can bring up may be difficult or painful. Accepting the reading for what it is, is one of the first hurdles to get over. But, accepting the reading doesn’t mean that you’re a bad person. It does mean that you’re willing to constructively work with the information that resonates or strikes a chord for you.

Something in the reading might stand out, good or bad, that you keep coming back to. When something stands out, it’s healthy to be curious and wonder why, rather than dismissing it. You might be upset that the reading seems to highlight abilities, but you don’t feel you possess them. If you don’t feel capable or interested in a certain talent or ability, then what do you feel capable of?

Numerology, provides insights in your inner most talents and abilities. Connecting with your own talents is a way to connect with your heart. It’s really about reflecting on what DOES matter to you. What is your heart calling for you to do? What does your heart want to say and express to the world?

It might be of some benefit to you to spend some in reflection, especially if you’re having trouble connecting to the deeper message. Some questions that might help your reflection are:

• How do you feel about the reading?
• Do you feel like the reading expresses the needs of your heart?
• Why do you feel this way?
• Do you feel limited by your reading in any way?
• How does the reading reflect the real you?

Take your time in answering the questions. You may want to come back to them over a period of time. As you reflect on them you may begin to get glimpses of the person within that the reading is talking about. You can be that person, or you can strive for something even better!

Try to find a way to use your insights to develop a deeper connection with your heart.

ScienceNews: The Impact of Gossip

Psychologist Lisa Feldman Barrett of Northeastern University in Boston recently undertook a study that illustrates that disapproving gossip quickly gets associated with a matching face, but that this connection operates outside our everyday conscious awareness.

“Encountering negative gossip about someone makes it easier to register that person’s face than neutral or positive gossip does.” ~ Lisa Feldman Barrett.