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Discovering A Life That Matters

Your Destiny Number can guide you toward living a life that really matters to you. As a tool to understand your life experiences, your Destiny Number describes ways in which you can best live in order to live up to your fullest potential. We all have life changing experiences we will pass through. Your own experiences will help to shape the person you will become.

The Destiny number describes those situations, actions and decisions you really are compelled to choose for growth in your life. It's about following your heart and believing in your inner dreams.

At first, others may more clearly see which decisions are best for you. Consider their wisdom carefully. However, the decision on how you want live your life is always up to you. But, sometimes those close to us can easily identify strengths within us, which we cannot yet see. Your choices and possibilities are limitless. Know that the knowledge that comes from living up to your Destiny Number can be vital toward pursuing your personal growth.

In Numerology, we use a letter chart to convert our names to a corresponding number. To Calculate your Destiny Number you will simply add up all of the letters in your birth name (or a nickname if you choose). The resulting number is then reduced to a single digit, by adding together its own numbers:

A, J, S = 1
B, K, T = 2
C, L, U = 3
D, M, V = 4
E, N, W = 5
F, O, X = 6
G, P, Y = 7
H, Q, Z = 8
I, R = 9

Example:
Paris Hilton : 7 + 1 + 9 + 9 + 1 + 8 + 9 + 3 + 2 + 6 + 5 = 60
(6 + 0) = 6

Now, if you also had a Destiny Number 6 like Paris, you would try to keep in mind how your time spent working or just having fun helps to make you feel more confident. For someone with a Destiny Number 6 this might be finding ways to help others connect and find joy in their own lives. When you are younger this might be through volunteer work with a group of close friends. Later in life you may feel compelled to be part a strong part of your community by contributing your time to local schools, hospitals or other community organizations.

Destiny Numbers - Brief Descriptions
Destiny 1:
You'll feel confident when you are: Being inventive or creative, Guiding, Leading, Challenging others
You'll feel challenged when you are: Giving up, Over confident, Domineering, Controlling, Hiding

Destiny 2:
You'll feel confident when you are: Compassionate, Caring, Honest, Receptive, Social, Giving
You'll feel challenged when you are: Feeling isolated, Cut off, Being manipulative, Wavering, Depressed, Chaotic

Destiny 3:
You'll feel confident when you are: Social, Optimistic, Creative, Gregarious, Fun, Caring, Worldly
You'll feel challenged when you are: Domineering, Gossipy, Bragging, Controlling, Manipulative

Destiny 4:
You'll feel confident when you are: Persistent, Loyal, Dependable, Controlled, Determined, Practical
You'll feel challenged when you are: Angry, Heated, Domineering, Fear based, Resistant, Moody, Closed

Destiny 5:
You'll feel confident when you are: Exploring, Curious, Inventive, Discovering, Traveling, Finding your voice
You'll feel challenged when you are: Greedy, Frugal, Coveting, Feeling Stressed, Temperamental, Bored, Uncaring

Destiny 6:
You'll feel confident when you are: Warm, Hospitable, Caring, Parenting, Helping, Concerned
You'll feel challenged when you are: Selfish, Uncaring, Pessimistic, Closed, Mean, Angry, Cold

Destiny 7:
You'll feel confident when you are: Utilizing your intuition, Living Spiritually, Honest, Caring, Having faith
You'll feel challenged when you are: Isolated, Dogmatic, Isolated, Apathetic, Closed, Lost, Angry

Destiny 8:
You'll feel confident when you are: Expressing your authority, persistent, courageous, honest, dedicated
You'll feel challenged when you are: Domineering, Greedy, Manipulative, Dishonest, Disloyal

Destiny 9:
You'll feel confident when you are: Sympathetic, Compassionate, Inspiring, Caring, Determined
You'll feel challenged when you are: Critical, Angry, Manipulative, Bitter, Compulsive

Authority, Compassion and your Destiny Number

Your Destiny Number can be a source of personal motivation. It's really like a inner natural talent. For instance, Destiny Number 8 is about having ambition, control and authority. With a Destiny Number of 8, you'll be motivated to learn to value yourself and look to work with your drive for authority, rather than against it through self-sabotage.

Of course, authority can come from many different places and situations. It might come from a position of power within the business world, or it can come from a strong leadership position with the political or educational world. For me, authority involves a balance between knowledge and compassion. It also about learning to look at my true inner needs, versus the needs of my ego. I often find myself assisting others with technology problems. I can know the right way to solve a difficult problem, but I can also work in a manner that does not make others feel hurt or unintelligent. I can include them in the solution, by empowering them to understand how the solution was arrived at.

Any process of learning about yourself is about balance. Authority has its place, but so does tolerance and acceptance. We are all powerful. We all have a place. We help to build a better world when we utilize our power and strength for the betterment of everyone. It's about accepting that you are part of a connected world. It's about accepting that you are not alone. You're decisions matter, and can dynamically change the world around you. For me, accepting my impact on others is often a struggle. Learning about acceptance may be difficult for you, but if you want the world to care and be concerned about you, you must first accept and care about your world.

As you mature and gain spiritual strength you will learn that your own feelings are as important as the feelings of everyone else. You'll also learn that your goals don't have to be mutually exclusive to the goals of others. Working with your Destiny Number can be an important part of your process and growth. Compassion may be another way. Compassion can transform your resistance into openness and acceptance. Being open can help you to live a more fulfilled life.

Staying sane in a negative work environment

Deborah Bailey, of CareerBuilder, has written a great article about staying calm and collected at work, rather than being angry and blowing up at others.

Her key points are:

• Don't buy into negativity
• Make time for you
• Align yourself with positive people
• Stay away from office politics
• Be aware if it is time to move on

From a conscious and spiritual perspective, I would add in finding time for creating some inner peace for yourself. I find meditation and shamanic work to be calming, but you might like Yoga, Tai Chi, running, Zumba or something else. Find a method that helps you to let go of stress and bring it into your life.

From a Numerological perspective, if you are not happy with your work and feel out of place, then you might look to your Life Path and your Destiny numbers for guidance and assistance with finding your path.

Your Core Numbers and letting go

How can your personal numbers help with the process of letting go? First, your Life Path, can help with the process of letting go, by helping you to focus on all of your important goals, especially those related to the long term. Do your present circumstances help or hinder you on your path? If you feel weighed down by some situation then perhaps it is time to find a way to let go.

Your Outer Number can help with the process of letting go, by allowing you to see yourself the way others might see you. It can help to give you a fresh perspective. By understanding it, you can learn to be more conscious of the way in which you lead your life. You might then be able to find ways to grow past personal limitations and restrictions. You might use your Outer Number as a conversation starter when you ask significant people in your about how they see you. Do they see you as courageous? Where do you shine? Where do you hide? Where are your pitfalls?

Your Outer Number can help you to better see both your strengths and your weaknesses and especially those traits that you don't recognize as even having. Your Outer Number is also those characteristics or parts of yourself that you feel comfortable sharing with the outside world. As you mature, you can begin to let go of this mask and allow the world to see the real you.

How you see yourself relates to your Soul Number. It illustrates your inner strengths, dreams and desires. It is those parts of yourself that you keep to yourself and may not be comfortable sharing with people that you are not close to. Your Soul Number can help with the process of letting go, by helping you to let go of habits and characteristics that no longer support you.

With your Soul Number you can reconnect with your inner dreams and let go of the critical voice that says you can't achieve them. Many people keep their dreams or desires hidden. You might want to use your Soul Number to open up a conversation with the significant people in your life and see where they might be able to assist you in stepping closer toward your dreams. Don't let your dreams take a back seat in your life for very long, as this can devalue your soul and erode your self confidence.

Your Maturity Number can help you in the process of letting go, by helping you to make choices that allow you to be as successful as you can be. It can guide you to solutions that correspond to your path in life and your goals and inner desires. With it, you can see which decisions are best for your overall psychological health and growth.

Your Destiny Number can help you in the process of letting go, by allowing you to see the choices that you have made that are supportive of your ultimate goals and dreams. When you feel that you have unmet desires, listening to the guidance that this number can provide can help you to make the course corrections that are necessary for leading a more fulfilled life.

Numerology and Letting go

Letting go, means that you understand you are not perfect. We all make mistakes. Nobody is perfect. Have compassion for yourself. Give yourself some freedom and learn to let go of your judging or critical voice. You may wish to work with a tool like voice dialogue, in order to truly access some your inner voices and to figure out what it is that you may really need in order to let go of the people, situations or habits that no longer support you.

Letting go is also about allowing yourself to become more rational and realistic about your own capabilities. There are certain things that you simply can't do. There are things that are outside of your control. There are also situations and events that you are not responsible for and you have no obligation to change them.

As you delve into your process of letting go, you might want to ask some of the following questions:

* How do I see myself? (represented by your Soul Number)
* How do others see me? (represented by your Outer Number)
* What are my strengths, and how can I best use them?
* What are my perceived weaknesses, and how do I let them limit me?
* What do I want to achieve? (represented by your Life Path)
* Am I willing to take responsible risks? (represented by your Maturity Number)
* Which strengths do I need to cultivate the most? (represented by your Destiny Number)

Take some quiet time to jot down your answers to these questions. You may want to talk with a close friend or a well qualified therapist to help you to learn more about yourself and begin the process of letting go.