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Eckhart Tolle on being present in relationship

Working with new beginnings (part 2)

By now, you’ve probably been focusing on the resolutions you made for the new year. You may have even backtracked, but it’s okay. You simply need to be willing to keep working at it. You might also look at your resolutions as intentions. Setting an intention to make a positive change can feel dramatically different than making a resolution. But, it’s really about reminding yourself about the life you wish to live.

In order to more fully support yourself and your desired changes, you may wish to hold a ceremony which others can also take part in. The main purpose of this ceremony is to help you release the harmful or unhealthy situations, habits or relationships from your life. You could gather with some close friends and discuss the things you’re willing to let go of. Together, you can guide and support one another throughout the rest of the year, and into the future. Having a supportive group of people behind you can help you to feel connected and honored. This can then help you to have a better chance of following through and sticking to your desired changes and resolutions.

To add a sense of sacredness and specialness to your ceremony you can light candles and have a roaring fire. According to many traditions, fire represents purification and cleansing. With the fireplace, in addition to talking about your issues, you can write them down and safely burn them in the fire. When you have finished, you can say a few words of thanks to the fire, either silently or aloud. Then, you may choose to sit in silent contemplation and allow the fire to burn down.

Placing your issues into the fire represents a deep willingness on your part to do what’s necessary to let go. If letting go of a particular issue feels like a big step, and it might be, then releasing it can be powerfully freeing and healing. Being willing to let go means that you’ll consciously live your life in a way that supports your desired changes. For instance, you might decide to let go of unhealthy eating habits, and this might involve clearing out your cupboards and swapping food with a friend, or donating the foods that no longer support you.

Taking time out to prepare before your ceremony will allow you to more clearly see the emotional issues in your life with the most charge. Don't be afraid to work with these. Have compassion for yourself, and ask for support as you bring your issues to the fire. Know that the fire can clear away and transform your issues. You only need to have an open heart and be willing to let go.

Working with the fire practice can help you to explore your own life and make room for new opportunities and new learning. Your process can be dynamic, transformational and exhilarating. Although you may be learning a lot about yourself, it's not necessarily like taking a class, but about simply finding ways to allow your life to have specialness, deeper meaning and importance, which often comes through listening to your heart.

Utilizing the fire, you can open to your intuition and the true call of your heart. Have you been putting the needs of your heart aside? Now is the time to listen and act. You may find that at the end of the ceremony, you’ve come up with a completely new resolution.

Throughout the year you can find time to regularly light a candle to support the changes you wish to make within your life. Perhaps, You may wish to set aside a special time each day to sit in silence before the candle. You can use this quiet time to reflect and meditate. It can be a chance to deepen your connection to your heart. You can also journal the thoughts and ideas that come to you in silence.

TED Talk - Kathryn Schulz - on Regret

Making changes for 2012

The coming New Year offers an opportunity for you to not only make resolutions, but to review your past and perhaps step away from situations which no longer support you. Certain habits, people or activities may not be appropriate for your overall mental, spiritual or emotional health. It might be difficult to distance yourself from the things and people that may seem integral to your life, but if their presence is doing more harm than good, you need to be willing to let go.

Whatever you need to let go of, the process is not necessarily an easy one. However, letting go can help you to heal and build the life you really want. Letting go can create space in your life for something new to unfold. Letting go can help you to step past restrictions and constraints, which hold you back and prevent you from making desired changes.

You may wish to hold some type of observance or practice, which others can take part in as well, to help you release and let go of harmful or unhealthy situations, habits or relationships from your life. As part of a New Year celebration, you could gather and talk about the things which you’re trying to let go of. Together, you can guide and support one another. Having a group of people behind you can help you to feel supported and honored. Feeling supported can help you to have a better chance of sticking to your desired changes and resolutions.

To add a sense of sacredness and specialness to your observation you can light candles and have a roaring fire. According to many traditions, fire represents purification and cleansing. With the fireplace, in addition to talking about your issues, you can write them down and safely burn them in the fire. Placing your issues into the fire represents a willingness on your part to do what’s necessary to let go. Being willing to let go means that you’ll consciously live your life in a way that supports your desired changes. For instance, you might decide to let go of unhealthy eating habits, and this might involve clearing out your cupboards and donating the foods that no longer support you.

Numerologically, 2012 offers the opportunity to learn more about ourselves and our lives, and find greater meaning in life. Curiosity is a strong theme within the year. Be willing and open to looking at your life as a mystery. What does life want for you? What do you feel drawn to uncover?

Working with the fire practice can help you to explore your life and make room for new opportunities and new learning. This is not necessarily about going back to school, but simply finding ways to allow your life to have specialness, deeper meaning and importance, which often comes through listening to your heart. Utilizing the fire, you can open to the true call of your heart. What is it calling for? Now is the time to listen and act on it.

Throughout the year you can light a candle each night to support the changes you wish to make within your life. You may wish to set aside a special time each day to sit in silence before the candle. You can use this quiet time to reflect and meditate. It can be a chance to deepen your connection to your heart. You can also journal the thoughts and ideas that come to you in silence.

Quote ~ Ghandi

I observe in the limited field in which I find myself, that unless I can reach the hearts of men and women, I am able to do nothing. I observe further that so long as the spirit of hate persists in some shape or other, it is impossible to establish peace or to gain our freedom by peaceful effort. We cannot love one another, if we hate Englishmen. We cannot love the Japanese and hate Englishmen. We must either let the law of love rule us through and through or not at all. Love among ourselves based on hatred of others breaks down under the slightest pressure. The fact is, such love is never real love. It is an armed peace. War will only be stopped when the conscience of mankind has become sufficiently elevated to recognize the undisputed supremacy of the Law of Love in all the walks of life. Some say this will never come to pass. I shall retain the faith till the end of my earthly existence that it shall come to pass.

Thinking about 2012

“Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, concerned citizens can change the world. Indeed it is the only thing that ever has.” ~ Margaret Mead

Numerologically, I’d like to look at 2012 from a personal perspective. On a global level, it’s true we’ve seen some very important shifts happen in recent years. The above quote has great resonance at this time, but we’re interested in evaluating how these shifts, whether local or abroad, may have stirred something deep within your heart. I believe that we need to pay attention to our hearts, in order to truly feel fully alive and be able to make changes in our lives, and the lives of the people that matter to us. If we ignore our hearts, then we deny the world the chance to truly see us. We also deny ourselves the chance to fully come alive.

What will the general dynamic or theme of the year be for you? What kind of potential does this new year bring? How might you take advantage to help yourself, your family and your community? 2012 can be a great time for self-reflection and redirecting your life. The coming year can allow you to tap into parts of yourself that you’ve denied, forgotten about, or ignored.

Paying attention to the stirrings of your heart can help you to better connect with yourself, your gifts and your dreams. Perhaps you’re drawn to find a way to step out into the world, or perhaps to teach others move forward in some way. In many ways, we’ve all felt deep inner urges to shift and change. However, some of us still feel stuck or confused.

How can we as individuals better listen to our hearts, so that we can better utilize and share our hope, energy, wisdom, compassion and caring? For many, a first step will be to find a way to ask for help. Much of the help that you need can come from setting aside regular quiet time to begin to hear what your heart has been calling for. Over time you’ll begin to be better able to respond to it’s needs. But you should know that 2012 will offer time to look within and reflect on changes you’ve been drawn toward in your life.

Some of the help that you may need will come when you’re finally able to ask for what your really want. Asking for help can require you to first recognize your own strengths and weaknesses. Without outside help, your challenges can be more daunting. With help you may be more able to make the changes you desire. Don’t be afraid to ask for help, and don’t be afraid to look within and ask yourself important questions about your life.

Some question that you can ask yourself at this time are:

• Do I believe that I have the power to make the changes I desire?
• Do I embrace, and smile at, life?
• Am I willing to ask for help?
• Am I willing to offer help?
• What is my heart calling for?
• Have I been recording/analyzing my dreams (which can provide insights)?

Quote ~ Wes Nisker

As strange as it sounds, meditation may reveal that we are happier than we ever thought we were. We may discover that ancient conditioning rather than present circumstances is causing our dissatisfaction, and this moment is quite sufficient or even wonderful, and we simply hadn't noticed. ~ The Buddha is Still Teaching

Healing Family Issues With Ancestral Healing

Within our bodies, hearts and souls we may carry some of the unfinished issues from our ancestors. Your ancestors can be anyone in your family tree. You may be struggling unconsciously with unresolved issues from your parents lives, their parents, or others who came before them. You may also be struggling with larger issues related to the entire family. The regrets, tragedies, pain, and grief that they were unable to deal with may have been unintentionally passed down to you. Ancestral healing work involves finding ways to let go, and look for ways to heal, from these issues.

Psychologically speaking, you may be dealing with issues related to the Shadow, which can relate to familial issues that are forgotten, never addressed or kept hidden. Unfortunately, within many families particular patterns of abuse, such as anger, alcoholism, or deceit, may be passed down from generation to generation. However, the damage that these patterns create can be healed.

Of course, much of what has passed down to you can be valuable and desirable. Your parents, and other elders, may have instilled great qualities within you. It’s important to recognize this, and to have compassion for yourself and your family. Ancestral healing work is not about blaming, pointing fingers or stepping away from responsibility. It is about finding ways to release the hold limiting life patterns, passed down to you, may have on your life.

Simply consider some of the phrases that may have been repeated in your childhood, such as “Money doesn’t grow on trees”, “It’s dangerous out there”, “You’re eating us out of house and home”, “You’ve got to face reality” or “You’re not good enough.” You also may have your own particular phrases that left a sting, and that you still remember.

Numerologically, you can begin to address your familial issues by looking at your Core Numbers, but also the Family Name number. Your Family Name number can help to illustrate the personal patterns, general emotions, attitudes, moods, and personal characteristics that you share with your family. Being aware and conscious of your emotions and how you connect with and relate to your family can help you to mature and grow as an individual. Knowing how you act and feel is important, as is finding a way to develop compassion, acceptance, and tolerance for your parents, yourself and other members of your family.

In general, your Family Name number can be used to show how you deal with and relate to challenging situations around money, work and relationships. It also describes the drives and tasks that you, as a member of a particular family, will feel compelled to achieve in this lifetime. This is especially true if you have been given the first name of a parent or grandparent. It often falls to children to accomplish those dreams that a parent didn't or couldn't resolve. This number can help you to be more aware of the ways in which external family influences can shape our lives and drive us to succeed in our life challenges.

You may need to seek out a skilled therapist, and/or support group, to begin to address these issues within your life. They can give you the necessary support and guidance to believe in yourself, and the recognition that you can indeed heal and make new choices within your life. They will help you to build a support network for yourself, and you can then look to other tools, therapies and techniques, such as those mentioned here, to help you along your path.

You might also look to other modalities, such as Shamanism, to help process and release your unfinished familiar issues. From a shamanic perspective, the patterns, behaviors and traits that are common within the family can be seen as imprints. A shamanic practitioner could work with you to release these imprints and help you reconnect with parts of yourself that seem missing or lost.

To catch a better glimpse of your particular family patterns, you might look to see:

• Health issues occurring at a certain age in members of your family.
• Patterns of drug abuse, alcoholism or addiction within the family.
• Emotional patterns, such as codependency, within the family.
• Limiting beliefs within the family.
• Patterns of enablement within the family.
• Destructive issues that are never addressed or talked about within the family.

Those of us with these, or other debilitating patterns, may need to find a way to address healing them in order to more deeply enable personal healing. Our families help to shape us, and unless you are willing to challenge those patterns and beliefs that are self limiting, you'll hold them inside. It's up to you and me, to discover a way to release them, heal and begin to more deeply believe in ourselves.

In order to begin now to address your ancestral healing needs you might be to begin to look at whatever feels out of balance in your life. You can then bring the material that arises to your therapist, doctor or support group.

I can work with you by discussing other tools and techniques which may help you in your journey. Together, we can discuss your Family Name number and address how it might impact your life. We can also work with your Numerology chart to take better advantage of the challenges and opportunities that you desire to pursue, but perhaps felt unable to, until now.

Numerology of Charlie Sheen

Today, we'll look at some of the Core Numbers in Charlie Sheen's Numerology chart. According to IMDB, Charlie Sheen was born on September 3, 1965. His birth name was Carlos Irnwin Estevez.

Looking at his Life Path we see that he is living with the influence of a Life Path 6. Briefly, this path is about having true concern, compassion and empathy for others. People with Life Path 6 may feel in their hearts that they simply must stand up and find ways to support and aid those who need it most. When they see problems within their family or community they are called to action.

Each Life Path will bring particular strengths and challenges with it. For those living with the influence of Life Path 6, the strengths are kindness, tolerance, generosity and problem solving. Also, balance and responsibility are key elements of this Life Path.

The challenges that these people face can revolve around being uncaring, oblivious, intolerant, cold and aloof. These people may struggle to try to find a place in their hearts for the world. They may not realize that while it’s important to nurture others, it’s also important to find time and space for themselves. Over time, they may let their upsets and challenges turn them toward cynicism and isolation.

I am not sure we’ve been able to truly see the strengths that this Life Path brings from his work. His character on his most recent show did not seem to play to any of the potential strengths, but instead leaned away from them. His recent sound bites and variety show don’t seem to portray the positive side of this Life Path either. Perhaps his earlier work reflects more of his true nature.

Charlie is living with the influence of Soul Number 4. This Soul Number revolves around stability, security, family, and service. For these people, it is important to be structured and responsible. Others often look to them for leadership and guidance.

Those people with Soul Number 4 may be challenged to find a way to bring order, clarity and reason into the world. They can grow to be effective mentors and leaders if they are willing to find their voice and believe in themselves.

It appears, at least from the way the media portrays Charlie, that he isn’t living up to the strengths of his Soul Number. Of course, we all have bad days. We all have moments when we wish we could take back the words we just said. Hopefully, for us and Charlie, we have people in our lives that can pull us back from the brink, and remind us about our lives and our gifts.

I only know Charlie from the image that is played up in the media. Of course, he is complicit in the very sharp image that is currently being shown to the world. If I was a close friend of his, I might ask some of the following questions:

• Do you feel like you've been let down?
• Do you feel like you've been able to connect with your true passion?
• What message do you feel you are conveying to the world?
• Do you feel as if you're in the back seat, and watching somebody else run your life?
• Do you you feel as if the media is to blame for how the world sees you?

The above questions could serve as a way for Charlie to better reflect on some of the some of his sensational actions and comments. But, he would have to be willing to look within himself and have the ability to reflect and make the necessary changes that he felt called to enact.

Regardless of his response, I feel that he would find great benefit by being able to find a way to look at the shadow side of the persona that he is currently portraying. It might help him to find a way to connect with the dynamic energy that he definitely has, but in a way that seems more nuanced, balanced and grounded.

Life Path 6 and Soul Number 4 both involve personal gifts of true compassion and concern for others. However, these gifts can be twisted when we let life wound us. When we feel hurt or wounded we find ways to acquiesce, give in and give up, and then we tend to blame others for our failures and forget about our own accountability. Compassion for ourselves can help us to take on responsibility and accountability.

Hopefully, Charlie does have compassion for himself and we may eventually see it portrayed in the media.

Blame VS Accountability

All too often when we have setbacks in our lives we become defensive, blaming and self-critical. We may spend long periods of time reevaluating out decisions, and wishing that we had done something differently. We get caught up in the fantasy of “If only.”

However, blaming yourself tends to be a process that only leads to more blame, frustration and anger. Blame tends to indicate that you’re very self-critical, and believe that you have failed. Blaming yourself allows you to dwell in the past and stew in anger and resentment over what might or could have been, rather than looking for a way to get back up, or find a way to learn from your experience.

Being accountable for yourself, your experiences and the outcomes means that you want to learn more about yourself and what life has to offer. It means that your life situations have significance, importance and meaning. Accountability means that you’re willing to look within, and make changes to allow yourself to navigate through the challenges that you may face.

Being accountable instead of blaming yourself, also means that you recognize that although being organized, planning and having structure are all important, you simply can’t know everything and realize that sometimes events in life simply don’t unfold as you had thought they would.

Numerology can begin to help you to be more accountable for yourself by highlighting your strengths and weaknesses through your Core Numbers. You can then use your insights from your Core Numbers as personal guidance to help you to better weigh and evaluate decisions, and their ramifications, as they relate to your personality and your potential.

Numerology can also help you to better evaluate your plans by helping you to understand and work with your personal cycles. Each year has a different theme or dynamic attached to it. Your Personal Year Number can help to provide you with guidance around the potential opportunities and challenges that can occur during the year. If you're prepared ahead of time, you can then be ready to take advantage of the opportunities as they unfold, rather than second guessing or worrying if you are making the right choices.

Finally, having a deep sense of compassion for yourself can help you to step into, and maintain, accountability. This means that you're fully embracing the "you", that you are becoming and that you fully recognize your humanness. You're not perfect. You'll make mistakes. But, you're willing to face life with an open heart.